This morning I was catching up with a mentor, who brought up a Native American teaching that resonated with me when I was in the start-up stage of my business. The teaching says: There is one’s own Survival Dance and one’s own Sacred Dance. This means our dharma, path of following our heart and sharing our unique gifts, is not always what allows our physical needs (food/shelter/water) to be met.
As entrepreneurs who are compelled to do nothing other than follow our hearts, this can be a challenge and sometimes a very necessary acknowledgement. This conversation created space for me to reflect upon my own path and the inner resistance to dancing my Survival Dance with as equal conviction, heart and gumption as I dance my Sacred Dance. This is primarily because, in the past, I believed that the Survival Dance was less honoring of my greatness.
Not only in my life, in many clients I have seen the resistance to the Survival Dance for one main reason: because we want to see our lives as ONE dance. It’s great in theory but… the same music, beat, moves… it’s unnatural. I believe the only way to create balance within the dance of opposites is to give them equal attention and love. This intention allows all aspects of your life to thrive, not just your business.
What are some ways to do this when our heart-strings are pulled so strongly in one direction? Follow these Four Pillars to find balance in your Dance of Life.
Holding a judgement towards anything that is present in your life as “better” than another is a sure way to create dissonance inside oneself. The limiting nature of thoughts like these will steer you away from your heart’s wisdom and create an energy of resistance towards something that is here FOR you. The trick is to see all that has presented itself to you as a gift, as an opportunity. The trick is to embody equal neutrality towards all aspects you’ve called into your life and move forward in gratitude.
Adapt to the Energy of Resistance
You will meet resistance on both paths, the sacred and the survivalist. It is not fighting against either of them that will bring you to center, but merely adapting yourself to meet the opportunities presented. Gravity is a force of resistance, and we don’t go through life resisting it, we accept what is and adapt ourselves to meet it. Resistance comes in all forms, a common one is procrastination, we can meet and adapt to this force by doing “that thing” (yes… you know the one) first.
When you have the courage to complete the thing you resist most, you will gain a sense of accomplishment and energy that can now be used towards the things that fill your heart rather than spending it in resistance.
Trust in the Divine Unfolding
This expands upon releasing judgement. When you trust in the Divine Unfolding—the belief that everything is happening for a higher good—there will be much more ease and grace in your life. No matter how hard we try, we could never see all the threads of connection that are working together for our betterment. It’s time to surrender the belief that we know what’s best and trust that some force beyond us has got our back.
Let your Heart Lead
When you choose to align with your heart’s knowing, you can have a clear “yes” or clear “no” to move forward in a certain direction in an instant. The answers are all within. Let that inner guidance, the innate wisdom inside, lead and guide you to your place of purpose. Say hello to the movement of the mind that wants to distract you, acknowledge it’s presence, and continue surrendering to the wisdom of your heart.
The truth is you cannot allow your Sacred Dance (your unique life’s purpose) to be separate from anything in your life. It is not a thing or an event, it is your natural way of being. When we set the intention and align our actions to be our greatest selves we are always dancing our Sacred Dance.
This dance of life has many partners, facets, styles, and speeds. We may get tired or restless and then what? DANCE IS CREATION… Birth something new—birth you!
Sometimes you have to hustle so you can make your dreams come true. If you have to sell toaster ovens through a sales company 3 days a week to make your dream of being an inspiring radio show host a reality, you just do it.
And most of all… whatever you do, do it whole-heartedly!
My motto is: If you’re going to say yes to something, you better show up 110% or don’t say “yes” at all.