Do you try to surround yourself with people you want to be more like or do you always want to be the best of the bunch?
As a Productivity and Health Coach, one of the first questions I ask my clients is to name five people they interact with the most.
Are they healthy? Not just look good in their clothes, but healthy in body, mind, and spirit?
Are they productive? Not just capable of getting a lot done, but actually efficient and effective, focusing on what actually needs to be done?
Do they have characteristics or traits you aspire to?
As business owners, we may need to be more selective of our friendships and network. Our former corporate friends may not understand and be able to empathize with the struggles to wear every hat as the CEO, CMO, COO, CFO and anything else that ends in O. In the beginning, our family may look at our business as a hobby and not take it seriously. In our self-employed network, we may find people who negate our successes because they aren’t feeling their own or pull us into their own struggles, making us feel as if we can’t brag about our wins.
Noun: concern for oneself before others.
Most of the time, this is considered a bad character trait. I’m asking you to reconsider. Put your own oxygen mask on first. High five yourself and find people around you that will high five back with the other hand. Don’t downplay your successes.
If you can’t think of at least one person around you that is healthier than you are, broaden your circle. If you can’t find a business owner to emulate that is efficient and building their business successfully, join a new networking group. Start your own group for brags like I did, Brag & Biz, where like-minded, positive business owners get together regularly and brag about their successes of activities and get feedback on any struggles.
Find a positive-focused mastermind group with other entrepreneurs and business owners that are where you strive to be in one year, five years or ten years. I did this when I joined Savor the Success, where you get grouped with people at the same income level as you that are trying to get to the next rung on the ladder.
That family member that doesn’t care about your business? It’s okay. People have their own lives to deal with and what might seem like a building on fire to us, is more like a smoldering match to them. They may not understand the ramifications of getting that new prospect, and we can’t let our feelings be hurt because they didn’t send us balloons to celebrate.
Be self-serving, but don’t be self-centered.
You and only you choose who you surround yourself with. Seek out the people that have the characteristics you strive to have and know that somewhere in your circle, you are that person as well.