It’s barely noon and I’ve already told three people that I love them. I’ve texted “I think I’m going crazy.” and “You are a goddess, don’t ever forget it.”
None of these people are in my family and I didn’t even know the majority of them a year ago. But it doesn’t matter. The love runs deep. They are my tribe and they are my sisterhood. I couldn’t build a business or get through life without them.
The idea of women joining together to support and care for one another is not a new one. It has been recorded that tribes of women gather together since the dawn of time. Sheryl Sandberg wrote Lean In as tribute to women helping women. From helping to care for babies to creating knitting circles to helping the new intern at work, women have learned how necessary it is to come together, to share, bond, teach and love one another. Some would argue that because women are able to step into more powerful roles and begin to enjoy equal rights, that the need for tribe is not as important as it has been in the past. But I’d argue the opposite. The more opportunities we have and the more the world opens up to us, the more crucial it is were continue to find our own tribe of women.
Tribes of women can sometimes get a bad reputation for cattiness or competitiveness and when you think of sororities or groups like the Spice Girls, it can make you wonder why on earth anyone would want that in your life. But that’s the different between a group of girls and a tribe of women. The saying goes that empowered women empower women so when you surround yourself with a tribe that is just as gutsy, ambitious, hardworking and loving as you are; you will feel that strength, support and love.
As solopreneurs who have to balance a growing business, client needs and the stress of wearing many hats; as well as our commitments to our families, friends, partners and other obligations, it can be difficult to feel like you’re doing anything right or getting anything done at all. Women have a tendency to put themselves last, to ignore their own needs and to run themselves ragged focusing on everyone else. Which is where your tribe comes in to help you stay grounded.
Having a group of women you can turn to whether that is a mastermind group, a group Facebook message or just a handful of women you can turn to when you need can be a sanity saver for women who want to do it all and have it all.
You need a tribe, especially a tribe of women in business, because women understand and communicate in different ways than men do and friends understand in a different way that partners do and people who have doing the same thing you are (building a business while living your life) understand the trials and tribulations more than friends who aren’t in the entrepreneurial world. So as your life shifts into the life of a solopreneur, so will your needs, your worries, your habits and your beliefs and you need a group who are on the same level as you are in those areas.
When you create your tribe of women, you suddenly have built-in support for when you are having bad days and need to be lifted up; when you want to share a win with people who understand; when you need advice or a referral or a suggestion; when you need to talk out an idea or brainstorm a new project. You have a team who understand the craziness of running a business and can laugh at it all with you. A tribe of women will remind you of your power, your possibility and your potential when you are lost in the dark.
Luckily finding a tribe is easier than ever, thanks to the Internet. You probably already know some individuals who you connect with and want to create a stronger bond with. Maybe you met in a Facebook group or at a networking event or through Instagram or at a conference. Maybe you have never met her but you’ve been following her blog for years and feel like you know her. Maybe she is a former client or collaborator. Whoever she is and whoever they are, they probably want to connect just as much as you do. There should be nothing stopping you from sending a note, email or Facebook message and proposing a coffee date. Start now, build your tribe and everything in your life and business will become more fun.