This expert will have the answer. This webinar will tell me what I need to know. This course will offer me what I’ve been missing.
Sound familiar? As someone paving their own path, these thoughts are all too common.
For years, I was very much a believer that everyone else had the answers and it was up to me to seek them out, whatever the cost. Perhaps the cost came in the form of money I spent on a program; in the form of losing trust in myself; or perhaps in the costliest form of all—losing touch with the inner wisdom within.
You see, all answers already lie within each of us; we just need to clear away whatever is blocking us from hearing them.
As my journey has continued, I find that I seek answers externally less and less. It’s not that I have forgone all learning. I actually consume quite a bit of information still—I just do it with a different intention.
Instead of seeking out teachings to give me the answer or to offer me that one thing I’m missing, I now see them pointing me to what I already know to be true within.
Sometimes this is way easier said than done. We have done a great job over the course of our lives to cover up the inner wisdom within. It is now our job to clear that away and reveal it once again. It’s always been there; it’s just been covered up by other people’s opinions, obligations, childhood wounds, limiting beliefs, and dependencies.
Revealing that wisdom is sometimes uncomfortable as it asks us to do things that we aren’t always willing to do. It asks us to step outside our comfort zone and experiment with new ways of being.
See if these three things might support you on your journey to accessing that wisdom within.
For many of us, we already do this to a fault. I am certainly guilty of over-thinking. Instead, think of this as awareness. Get curious about what matters most—your self. Explore your tendencies, see patterns, ask questions. As path-pavers, we tend to be busy thinking about how to gain new clients or how to market ourselves more effectively. I invite you to use your brain-tool to think more about yourself for awhile and see what is revealed to you.
This might not sound very exciting, but we all know change doesn’t happen overnight. Everything is a process and it is all unfolding at exactly the right time. Oftentimes, we get anxious or start to think that “it should have happened by now.” By practicing and becoming more comfortable with waiting, we create space to hear the wisdom within much more clearly.
Now, this does’t mean we need to go without food or water for days or weeks at a time, unless you’d like to. What this means to me is abstaining from instant gratification. Learning to deprive ourselves of things just because we want them, now. The practice of denying ourselves instant gratification from time to time allows us to move beyond habits and tendencies that drown out the inner voice.
The next time you are about to sign up for the course that can offer you what you’ve been missing all along, I invite you to think, wait, and possibly even abstain. Become aware of your own unique patterns and desires; practice patience remembering that mailing lists don’t reach 10,000 overnight; and refrain from the temptation to sign up for yet one more online challenge.
And most importantly, trust yourself—you already have the answers within.