Do you ever have any, what I like to call “sticky-icky stuff” come up and feel like, “I just don’t want to go there” or “I thought I was through with this?” Carl Jung named the idea of our Shadow as the unconscious aspects of ourselves we wish not to identify with. Through my own exploration I’ve come to see it as many things, including: the parts of myself I’ve disowned, a valuable and humbling teacher, as well as a sister-self waiting to be reclaimed.
Our Shadow shows depth. Here we can discover the parts of ourselves waiting to come forward that we haven’t acknowledged or allowed to come forward in our outward presentation. Once upon a time we were little limitless multi-dimensional children before our families and society shaped us by asking us to repress the parts of our fearlessness that made them uncomfortable.
“Only those willing to walk through the dark night will be able to see the beauty of the moon and the brilliance of the stars.” Archbishop Socrates Villegas
If we can see unfavorable parts in others, through our own judgements, that means those parts are hidden in the depths of ourselves. It can be easier in the short-term to see these aspects in others, but more supportive in the long-run if we can take a look and acknowledge their presence within our own beings.
The good part is that we’re human, and live in duality, so the more we are able to compassionately explore the darker parts of ourselves, the more we awaken to and create space to deepen in the qualities of our Highest Self. Fear is a representation of being on the precipice of growth. Don’t let your limiting beliefs hold you back from your Soul’s Purpose. As we befriend our Shadows, the aspects inside of us that are suffering in some small way, and lend them our love and compassion, as if they were a 5-year old in pain, we can often see countless changes including, but not limited to:
– we begin to see these aspects of ourselves in a different way
– we heal shame
– we come out of hiding
– we reclaim dominion over our own self-worth
– we release fear of judgement from others
– we begin to let more love in
– we become more creative as we express more of ourselves
– we integrate more of ourselves into our lives on a regular basis
– we see these qualities in others with a greater perspective of acceptance
– we feel empowered as we reclaim all of ourselves back home
– our whole world changes
I know what you’re thinking… So how do I do this? And how is it going to help my business? First off, I already know that if you’re reading this then you’re ready to create positive change in your life by meeting yourself more fully. But it’s you who has to affirm that to be true in order for it to be effective. So before reading the rest… Say it with me, “I am ready and willing to meet all parts of myself with unconditional love.”
We share ourselves whole-heartedly when we feel safe. We must create this feeling from within, rather than waiting for anyone or thing else to provide this security. When we feel safe we can feel all our feelings, our feelings are where the magic is at, even the feelings like shame, guilt, anger, fear.
The parts of yourself that you may be afraid to show, share or even acknowledge just want to be heard, just want to be seen (like everyone else). Give yourself permission to see them. Ask for support, you don’t have to do this alone; from a friend, a coach, your own inner authority, God, the Universe… whatever feels authentic.
After really hearing what those parts of you have to say, acknowledging their hurt without identifying as them, then the next step is to… Love bomb the bejeezus out of them! Yep, you heard me right, that’s proper psychology jargon! Give from the infinite well that you are and extend a welcoming hand or hug their way.
Set an intention to continue to live from this place of great authentic expression, deepened connection, self-permission and dominion over all your ways of being.
Because you have given yourself permission to go on an exploration of the Soul, you show up as a real person, someone who has stuff, someone who can acknowledge and love the stuff in others. Without the fear of your shadow being exposed, you can now put your best foot forward. Becoming friends with your Shadow allows you to be of greater service without worrying about pleasing others, it’s just you giving yourself to your life’s purpose as you are, they can take it or leave it. There is great freedom in that! It’s selfish not to get past your insecurities so you can serve something bigger. If you want to help others, you have to put yourself out there for them to find you.
Visibility is key, is what you’re showing really you?
If you’re serious about putting your best foot forward personally, professionally and spiritually, you’re ready to truly step into playing a bigger game and make a difference, and you are looking for support along the way – Game on! I’d love to support you. I’m offering 60-minute complimentary consultations HERE to see if we could be a great fit in making your dreams come true!